父女情

以双线叙事结构，在凯蒂的童年故事与现代生活中交叉叙述的。 影片在开始讲述了凯蒂5岁的时候，因为一次严重的车祸，凯蒂失去了她非常爱的妈妈，爸爸也因此得了一种严重影响生活的神经性疾病。为了能够更好抚养凯蒂，爸爸决定去医院彻底治疗，于是把凯蒂暂时交给她的姨妈抚养。7个月后，出院后的爸爸来接凯蒂时，姨妈姨父提出要领养凯蒂，生气的爸爸抱着凯蒂出门之后。

影片就转到了25年后的凯蒂，她，美丽，惊艳，是一位心理学博士，做着一份社工的工作，然而美丽光鲜的外表下面，却有着不被人理解的行为——她能够和酒吧里认识的向她搭讪的任何男士随意地做爱，尽管连好感都谈不上。

在一个五岁的小女孩的记忆里，是无忧无虑，享受跟父亲生活的每一天，充满爱与快乐。比如： 父亲坐在她床头，每晚都给她读睡前故事。他大段大段地读，整本整本地读，以一个作家的情感和声音，更加生动，更加引人入胜——引她入梦。

父亲每天早晨轻声唤醒她，给她穿上漂亮的裙子，赞美她是世界上最漂亮的女孩。高兴之下，他会把她抱起来转圈，跳着华尔兹舞，令她沉醉，飘飘欲仙。 父亲写作时，她就在他身边做作业，两人互相赞美对方是天才。他们一起轻声哼唱那首家喻户晓的《Close to you》，温馨洋溢，亲密无间，她在父亲的怀里，小手抓大手，一起画出最美的愿景。

父亲用一本小说得来的稿酬，给她买了一辆自行车，跟在她身后，亦步亦趋，教她骑车，最后目送她快活远去。周末晴好，父亲会放下手上的笔，陪女儿在公园一起骑行，沿着小湖，穿过小桥，在人群中落下一路的欢声笑语。

在她看到别人的母亲而难过时，父亲会把她抱着怀里，告诉她妈妈就在天上看着她。父亲蹲下身子，跟她拉钩，向她保证他会活到百岁千岁，活到她有自己的孩子。

姨妈姨父一直想着领养凯蒂，当爸爸出院之后的第一部作品，在评论和市场都不好的情况下，姨父激怒了爸爸使他做出了一些不“恰当”的行为而让他有机会去剥夺爸爸的抚养权。为此，爸爸不惜高价聘请最好的律师为了保留抚养权，同时日以继夜地工作着……最后的官司因为姨父有了外遇而取消上诉侥幸取胜，而他因为用三个月的时间完成了通常需要一年的作品《父女情》却彻底累倒，离开了凯蒂。

当男友邀请凯蒂去见自己的父母的时候，凯蒂知道那意味着要确定两个人的关系，对一些女人来说，这是幸福的时刻，但是对于凯蒂，这是她很恐惧的时刻，她再一次拒绝了男友，男友伤心的离开

凯蒂被一个十几岁的小女孩打了一个巴掌。因为凯蒂要中断和小女孩的心理咨询。尽管中断的原因是因为一个好消息:有人决定收养小女孩，并且带其搬到更好的城区中居住生活。面对分离，小女孩很生气，觉得自己被凯蒂抛弃了，就好像小女孩当年被父母抛弃一样

作为心理医生，在治疗那个失去母亲的女孩过程中，也修复着她自己的伤口。她在和那个即将去其他社区的女孩告别的时候，深深地明白了其实她的爸爸用《父女情》这本书，倾注了浓浓的爱，也已经好好地和她告别。

当凯蒂再一次想通过一夜情来惩罚自己的时候，她听到了一首歌 — Close to you，她莫名的痛哭流涕，这首歌是父亲写作时经常播放的，这首歌让她想起来和父亲在一起的日子，这首歌让她终于敢面对失去的痛苦与对父亲的想念，在坚强了多年以后，她终于哭了出来，第一次为失去父亲而痛哭，第一次说出了那句：我想你，我很想你，凯蒂决定去找回男友，尽管有可能随时会失去男友，但她知道爱是她真正的需要

女儿滥交，亲自毁掉恋情。 Scared... Why? I miss her so much and I'm... And mad at her for dying.

为什么突然回头去找？ It was his way of telling me how much he loves me and goodbye.

为什么说“看错了”呢？因为昨晚心情不好，被老婆一顿无解的数落，懒得解释太多，碰巧女儿早些吃完饭，就一直缠绕在身边求抱抱（我跟老婆都在吃饭中）。因为之前有先例，所以没惯着她，毕竟她也两岁多了，之前也跟她解释说过，父母在吃饭时不要骚扰，很没礼貌之类的（即使我是估计她会听懂的）。本来心情就不好，我就好声好气再跟女儿解释一遍，但她还是不依不饶，甚至对着我们发脾气（在大喊），我就爆发了，摔筷子，很严厉批评了她一顿，当然她只有大哭了。

事后，心情更差。因为是清明假期的前一个晚上，老婆想熬夜拥有一点私人空间，我来带女儿睡觉。睡前也跟女儿道歉，也解释爸爸为什么发大脾气，她都一 一答应。本来一切都好好的，正常来讲，我比她先入睡，她随后都会入睡。鬼知道，房门不知道是我没关紧还是啥，留了一条缝隙，厅的灯光射进来，被她发现，就一直没睡，在那里开小差。吵醒我后，我就关门，她就大哭了。她这么一哭，我脾气又上来了，就扯了她一下，让她躺下，她就更加哭得厉害，于是老婆骂骂咧咧从厅进来，说我为啥不哄她之类的，我就没搭理她，就由她来哄睡，我出去厅了。

哎~~其实心里一点都不好受，很后悔自己脾气没能控制住。

想着，怎么才能做好一名父亲，就找找相关电影看看。看了一部算是治愈的《我被爸爸绑架了》，之后找到这部《父女情》。

为什么说“看错了”呢？给封面骗了，封面看着温馨，剧情却是压抑。

主体调调就是讲述女主人公，就是女儿如何悲惨的童年，导致长大后形成严重的心理创伤。更讽刺的是，自己是心理学博士，还是名社工，帮助有心理问题的儿童走出阴影。真的是心理医生都无法自救。

意外丧母后，父亲成为女主人公童年的唯一依靠。虽然有来自大姨一家的关爱，但是没什么能代替得了“父爱”。结果，也因为大姨一家的关爱来得太沉重了（太自以为是），低估了一名父亲的力量，间接害死了女主人公的父亲（嗯，我是认为女主角父亲的意外去世跟大姨一家的诉讼有脱不了的关系）。要不是这单无厘头的官司，女主人公的父亲也不会那么拼命去憋小说赚律师费，不然很可能就会丧失女儿的监护权，要知道他本来身体就有毛病。

当然，父母的相继去世，如果不是还有大姨的资助，估计女主人公童年更加惨，所以在后面，她跟大姨看上去关系还不错。

结局还算美好吧。起码女主角能遇到一位不介意她过去（甚至现在）的男人，关键这个男人的出现逐渐填补了她心中的空虚（心理创伤）。

不过电影最后女主在家再度出轨那段很是无语，出轨就出轨，算你有病，但是连犯罪现场也不清理这就有点神操作了。事后男主的反应很正常，但女主的反应又是为何呢？难不成她不是故意为之？难道她还想男主傻傻在那里冷静听她解释？（解释有个屁用）。

电影看完，没觉得好受点，反而觉得有点压抑。

总言之，父亲跟女儿的关系是很微妙的吧，个人觉得是门很深的学问。

电影赏析 Fathers and Daughters：探讨如何面对失去与离别

• 电影赏析 Fathers and Daughters：探讨如何面对失去与离别
  • 1.前言
  • 2. 害怕 恐惧的连接是怎么开始的
    • 2.1 女主为什么如此害怕连接
    • 2.2 面对离开，父亲做了哪些正确的事情
    • 2.3 女主为什么选择社区心理辅导的工作
    • 2.4 第一次展现女主在性上比较随意（只是第一次见面）
    • 2.4 女主医治自闭症儿童Lucy
    • 2.5 女主接受医治(全篇最喜欢的台词)
      • 2.5.1为什么女主不停的沉迷于短暂的性关系（女主的感受）
      • 2.5.2如果遇到真爱，女主会怎么做：
      • 2.5.3为什么女主如此恐惧关系
    • 2.3 女主与男友Cameron的第一次见面
      • 2.3.1男友Cameron和其他的一夜情pao友有什么不同（为什么女主在Cameron面前表现出正常的模式 愿意聊天，沟通）
      • 2.3.2 女主的社交环境
    • 2.4 如何才是对孩子比较好，
    • 2.5 直面恐惧的连接(与狮子面对面)
    • 2.6 男主许下诺言
    • 2.7 亲人离世的创伤最主要的情绪是
  • 3.害怕的连接：害怕的连接直接反应是
    • 3.1 为什么Katie不敢见父母
    • 3.2 Katie为何在恋爱的时候时候出轨
  • 4.害怕的连接：怎么克服
    • 4.1 为什么Katie在分手后去酒吧面对更深堕落的诱惑，在自暴自弃的路上，选择了回去
    • 4.2 为什么Lucy打了一巴掌给Katie？
  • 5 复盘总结：如何做的更好
  • 6 参考资料
  • 7 感谢
  • 8 写作用时

1.前言

第二天有DH老师电影分享，11点点开这部电影，猛一抬头，已是深夜，陷入了久久的回忆之中，欢乐与忧伤反复交织，

如何面对人生的重大的失去与离别是每个必修的功课，如果走不出来，会给你一生带来重大伤害，如果走出来，会对人生特别大的成长和祝福.

《倚天屠龙记》的后记，金庸写到：「张三丰见到张翠山自刎时的悲痛，谢逊听到张无忌死讯时的伤心，书中写得太也肤浅了，真实人生中不是这样的，因为那时候我还不明白。」——修订这套书的时候，金庸也痛失长子。

在自己而立之年，也面对自己至亲之人的猝然离开，巨大的悲痛并不像有些电视中表现的哭天抢地，而是处于一种麻木之中，感觉不到，与世界隔离的状态（就像海边的曼彻斯特男主无法释怀的悲伤），，就像手部外伤，会让人感到疼痛，而断臂会让机体处于一种应激状态，感觉神经已经遭到破坏，我直到第三天起床，来到洗手间，看到亲人物品仍在，不禁跪在地上，呜咽起来。

2. 害怕 恐惧的连接是怎么开始的

害怕影响她一生的恐惧是如何开始的

2.1 女主为什么如此害怕连接

失去，特别是面对突然的失去，被动的失去了最爱的人，让他们无法从巨大的伤痛中走出来。 家庭的出轨，母亲的遽然离世，父亲的遽然离世 原本和睦的家庭场景：

Potato Chip. Potato Chip? I'm here! Here I come! I'm hungry now! Go! Run, run! I want the Potato Chip! Guess who's home.

就如开头，当父亲在房间里追赶这 Kitty，大声喊叫这potato chip，家庭的温馨，让我想起，小时候最喜欢的就是自己双臂撑直立于身体两侧，与父亲掌心对掌心，被父亲高高举起。甜蜜的场景依旧浮现在脑海中。

但家庭生活必然充满着冲突，

You know, I saw the wayyou were looking at her.

Come on, there was a room full of writers. I was just talking to her.

Oh, come on! I know the difference between talking and flirting.

I wasn't flirting. You shoudn't've had that third glass of wine.

Oh really? Yeah, listen, once you've been betrayed...

...there's no way in the world that I would ever...

Once, Tricia, once! Seven years ago.

Once?

Once is enough for me! And...

seven years，一次的不忠带给家庭的不信任，虽然已经过去七年之久，

所以我可以理解片头罗素克劳和副驾老婆关于出轨的吵架，对于坐在后面的kitty的负面影响其实是很深的。隐约能感到罗素克劳夫妇平时的感情也许并没那么甜蜜，kitty对于婚姻的不安全感应该是有的。 承认从小是对婚姻完全不信任的，无论是父爱和母爱 ，童年的回忆充斥这父母的争吵，记得有一天 夜里姐姐叫醒我说听见声响，一起出门往父母的房间望去，发现父亲因怀疑母亲不忠，实在咽不下这口气，将母亲头部捂在被子下，母亲在下边哀求哽咽，这个场景一直忘不了。那时我才9岁。

面对亲密关系，一次次的选择逃避。

2.2 面对离开，父亲做了哪些正确的事情

The problem now is that now you're experiencing...

...a manic depressive psychosis

brought on by the accident, the brain trauma, the loss of your wife.

What concerns me, Jake, are the seizures,

because those seizures are definitely a sign of something far more serious.

And if you don't at least try treatment and give yourself a chance,

you will end up with a much worse condition.

Like what?

Psychotic breaks.

I would like to strongly suggest that you consider staying at St. Francis.

I know doctors there. I really recommend you get treatment for a few weeks.

Maybe even a few months.

A mental hospital?

Come on.

I can't do that. I have a... I have a daughter to raise.

And that's exactly why you need to,

because you have a daughter to raise. 当医生告知他因为脑部受伤需要离开一段时间时，他选择了直面自己的女儿，

Still your favorite, isn't it?

Yeah.

Hey...

Katie...

I have to go away.

What?

Just for a little while.

How long?

I don't know, just a while.

I wanna come.

Not this time, baby.

You know...

the accident's made me a little bit sick and I have to get fixed.

I need to be stronger so I can take care of you.

You do!

Not the way I need to, baby. Okay?

You're gonna go stay with Aunt Elizabeth and Uncle William

and your cousins in West Chester.

But I don't want you to go!

When I come back it'll be for good, forever.

It's gonna be fine.

男主解释了原因

并且与她的联系

Hey. Hi, sweetheart!

Jake. Hi!

Oh, I'm so happy you come to stay with us.

Say goodbye.

• I have to go now.
• No!

I'll be back soon as I can.

You're my Potato Chip, You and nobody else, okay?

I love you so much.

• Okay okay...
• He'll be back, sweetheart.

I love you, Katie!

Dad! You're my Potato Chip,You and nobody else, okay? 温暖的言语与告别。 突然发现这部电影没有一个镜头与情节是无关紧要的，在影片的开头就展现了如何面对正确的失去与离别。父亲做了一次离别的教科书示范。

主动的面对失去与离别，不会给女主如此大的伤害

2.3 女主为什么选择社区心理辅导的工作

Hey, Katie, wait up.

• What's going on?
• Studying.

I Can't believe you're getting a graduating degree in psychology,

sitting around listening to people whine about their problems all day.

I like helping people.

You can help me.

I'm lonely as hell.

What could I possibly do to help you, Evan?

I don't know. We could go out for a date sometime.

You're a confident man, huh?

Am I? I think so.

So tell me, what do you really want?

女主获得了graduating degree in psychology，并且选择了社区心理辅导员，整日听人倾诉他们的问题，听起来似乎很无聊（sitting around listening to people whine about their problems all day.），但女主却很喜欢，有种说法说，读心理学的都是希望内心得到医治，在某种程度上说，这种说法是对的。

2.4 第一次展现女主在性上比较随意（只是第一次见面）

25 Years Later. Do you wanna date me, or do you wanna fuck me?

'cause I'm fine either way.

What happened to your confidence?

Can I see you again?

No, man.

Why'd you do that if you don't wanna see me again?

I didn't have to time to work out today.

See you around, Evan.

请注意这个镜头，女主在与小鲜肉做爱后，面对镜子选择了逃避，内心的罪恶感充斥着自己，让其无法面对自己（电影中的镜子总是会展现很多内心活动，）

2.4 女主医治自闭症儿童Lucy

Which one's your favorite?

You can just point.

I like the cat. But that's just me.

Lucy, I know you're scared.

But you're in a really safe place, okay?

And I wanna be here to help you.

I promise you that.

2.5 女主接受医治(全篇最喜欢的台词)

I...

...don't love.

But you have loved.

Yeah, a long time ago once.

So you know that you can love?

I'm... There's nothing in here. There's nothing.

It's like... It's an empty well. It's...

just dry and barren.

Is that why you sleep with all these men?

• No.
• So what is it you want?
• I don't want anything.
• Well, you must want something,

you continue to do it.

So how does it make you feel?

• Happy?
• No.

Pretty?

• No!
• So what?

It makes me feel...

It makes me feel... something,

because most of the time I feel nothing.

And these are men that you don't even like.

Right.

So what would you do if you met a man that you actually did like?

I don't know.

Probably make him regret the day he laid eyes on me.

2.5.1为什么女主不停的沉迷于短暂的性关系（女主的感受）

I... don't love 一句话揭露了女主的感受， I don't love，It makes me feel something，

我总是在不停的陷在暧昧的关系中，女主的这句台词表达了 我的感受，It makes me feel something，because most of the time ,I feel nothing.这种感受能够在内心的空洞中感受到一点波澜,感觉到我与这个世界还有联系。

2.5.2如果遇到真爱，女主会怎么做：

I don't know.

Probably make him regret the day he laid eyes on me.

2.5.3为什么女主如此恐惧关系

本世纪初，波士顿市郊有一所精神病院，专门照顾严重迟钝和心理失常的病人。其中一位病人，是一位名叫安妮的女孩。她对精神病院里的人完全没有反应。职员们试尽了各种方法，想要帮助她。却都徒劳无功。最后，他们终于放弃了希望，把她安置在地下室一个小房间内。

可是，一位漂亮的基督徒女子在那里工作。她相信，神所创造的人都需要被爱，被关心和照顾。她决定每天在安妮的小房间外吃午餐。为她念书，祈求神释放她脱离那寂静的囚笼。日复一日，基督徒女子来到安妮的门前，在那里念书，但那女孩仍毫无反应。过了几个月，她试着对安妮说话，却像对着空洞的房间说话一样。她也带些食物给安妮，可是安妮从来不吃。

有一天，那好心的妇人发现，盘子里的一块果仁巧克力不见了。她大得鼓励，于是继续为安妮念书，为她祷告。终于，那女孩隔着铁栏，开口跟她说话。不久，那妇人说服医生，再给安妮接受治疗的机会。他们把她从地下室带上来，继续给予她帮助。 两年之内，院方告诉安妮，她已经可以出院，享受正常人的主活。但她决定留下来。她非常感激那位虔诚的基督徒的照顾和爱心，所以她决定留下来，爱护其他人，像她被爱护一样。于是，小安妮留在精神病院，帮助其他像她一样受苦的人。

几乎在半个世纪之后，英国女皇主持一项特别的仪式，向一位鼓舞人心的美国女性，海伦·凯勒致敬。当被问到，是什么原因使她克服了双重的障碍，瞎眼和耳聋，海伦·凯勒：「假如不是安妮，苏利文小姐，我今天不会在这里。」

安妮的故事（安妮即盲女海伦.凯勒的老师） - [ 感恩见证 ]『约拿的家』基督徒网络交流论坛

2.3 女主与男友Cameron的第一次见面

Hey.

You know...

Normally I would never approach someone like you, but...

I heard a rumor.

What rumor?

Um... That my literary idol and your father are the same person.

I don't know if that's true.

So they lied to me?

Who?

My friends, they're liars. You're not Potato Chip?

Sorry.

I can't really hear you. Can we move?

Yeah.

Where...

What were you babbling about?

Nice. Um...

Jake Davis,

he wrote my favorite book, of all time, "Fathers and Daughters".

Wow. It's a popular book?

Yeah.

I know. It's just been with me ever since I was a little kid.

It...

literally changed my life. So...

Hi. My name's Cameron.

I'm Katie.

Katie?

Yes.

As in, "Kate Davis"?

You're the real Kate Davis?

How close is the book to what actually happened?

It's a lot funnier in the book.

Okay.

Is this your thing? You go out, alone, no friends?

• Yeah.
• Yeah?

Sometimes I really just... I prefer being alone.

It's a lot easier.

So what do you do?

I'm a social worker. I work with kids with problems.

• Wow.
• Yeah.

I like it.

So how do you get by?

I'm a freelance writer for a few newspapers

and starting my first book.

What's it called?

• You really wanna know?
• Yeah.

Uh... "Two is the Perfect Number."

• Two is the Perfect Number?
• Yeah.

Is that a love story?

Uh... Yeah. Kind of.

This is me.

• This is you.
• Yeah.

Wow, this is really nice!

Perfect for a Potato Chip.

Well, you're never seeing my apartment.

I'm... well, not the would... This is a... date or... anything but... uh

What are you doing tomorrow?

Why?

Well, so we can continue this conversation.

I was, you know, running.

I can run.

• Would you like to join me?
• Yeah, I would.

Okay.

Um...

Meet me up here at four.

Four? Okay.

Um... Sweet... Sweet dreams.

Sweet dreams to you too, Cameron.

• Good night.
• Night.

2.3.1男友Cameron和其他的一夜情pao友有什么不同（为什么女主在Cameron面前表现出正常的模式 愿意聊天，沟通）

Hey.

You know...

Normally I would never approach someone like you, but...

I heard a rumor.

What rumor?

Um... That my literary idol and your father are the same person.

I don't know if that's true.

So they lied to me?

Who?

My friends, they're liars. You're not Potato Chip?

Sorry.

I can't really hear you. Can we move? 女主一开始本不想和Cameron有过多交往，直到他提及potato chip，唤起了女主小时被爱的画面，

2.3.2 女主的社交环境

受过伤的女主不仅在亲密关系中无法进入，平常也都是独来独往，很少有朋友进入她的生活。

2.4 如何才是对孩子比较好，

Jake.

William.

Ah, thanks for coming.

I'm sorry. I hear about your book.

It must've been rough the way the criticism pegged down to you.

Yeah, well, you know...

I don't know why God invented cockroaches or literary critics. I'm sure he had his reasons.

Well, you know, I mean, they just hated it.

I mean, they actively hated it. How do you get passed on like that?

Well, you know, pick a cellphone, the self-affluent.

That kind of thing.

You know, have you even noticed...

that you're shaking.

The last time we met, it looked to me like you were about to have a seizure.

And I... I admit,

I mean I was disturbed to see you still wrestling with an impulses you can't control

even after all that time in the hospital.

The book's prove, Jake.

You're not ready for the real world. You're not cut out to be a father.

You just give Katie to somebody actually can take care of her.

Tell your kid that you love her, and then you can't do what's best for her.

That's hypocrisy at the worst.

Carl, just not so much left-hand.

That's funny, man. That's funny.

You're in deep shit now.

Nice move.

You'd better mind. He's mannerless.

如何才是对孩子比较好，一方是家庭条件优越 婚姻幸福（当时来看）的姨妈家，还是身处财务危机，面临不可何时癫痫发作的的父亲，两者都非常爱女主Katie，

如果你是那个小孩，你希望选择哪个家庭呢

如果你是那个父母，你会做出如何选择呢

这个问题我也不知道如何回答，

2.5 直面恐惧的连接(与狮子面对面)

You wanna know what made me decide to become a writer?

Really stick to it?

Well, when I was in Kenya,

one morning I woke up and jumped out of the car, to pee,

and... I was face to face with a lion.

Really?

Yeah, I know, for real.

I mean, a male lion about 15 feet in front of me

just staring straight at me.

I mean, he was clearly telling me that I was his.

What'd you do?

I didn't do anything. I was frozen.

I mean, I physically could not move.

You know, he stared at me for a few more moments and he just...

walked right past me.

I will never forget that moment, you know.

I realized that no more plan B,

no documentary, no veterinarian,

no Harvard.

I just wanted to do what I always dreamed of, you know?

I wanted to write, you know?

I wanted to write as if every page I was writing on was the last page before I die.

You know? I wanna...

I wanna leave something behind.

You know? I wanna...

I wanna leave my mark, because you know what,

sooner or later, in one form or another, a lion is just gonna come and get us all.

I'm so glad that he let you live.

Yeah, so am I.

So am I.

Coming to bed?

Yeah, in a bit.

I have something for you.

Hmm?

What?

What is this?

It's the original.

To Katie, My Potato Chip,

who I love more than the last number.

Katie I can't accept this.

I want you to have it.

It's a good luck charm.

It's for you.

I realized that no more plan B,

no documentary, no veterinarian,

no Harvard.

Yeah, so am I.

So am I.

Coming to bed?

Yeah, in a bit.

I have something for you.

Hmm?

What?

What is this?

It's the original.

To Katie, My Potato Chip,

who I love more than the last number.

Katie I can't accept this.

I want you to have it.

It's a good luck charm.

It's for you.

如何面对恐惧，其实Katie的对亲密关系当中最大的阻碍就是面对恐惧，从这里能看到Katie清晰的成长线，从Potato chip唤起小时候的美好记忆愿意与男友开启这段关系，到男友Cameron分享与狮子面对面时候的场景，让她有了面对亲密关系的勇气，并把自己最珍贵的父亲遗留下来的手稿交给了Cameron。

再次阅读剧本，对我又何尝不是，面对亲密关系,就像面对狮子一样，面临随时被吞噬的风险，你的理智当然无存，你的本能（恐惧）会驱使着你离它越远越好！（讲道理对于被恐惧占据的的人来说毫无用处）

2.6 男主许下诺言

Wow, look at those teeth.

I bet you all the other dinosaurs didn't wanna bump into this guy at dinner time.

Miss your mom?

Me too.

Hey...

You know you were the great joy in light of your mom's life,

just like you're the great joy in light of mine.

I really miss her.

Ooh, of course you do.

Of course you do.

But you know what?

Your mom is wherever you are.

She's in this room right now.

She's watching over us.

She's looking down.

She's got a big smile on her face and she's so proud.

She's so proud of you baby.

'cause she can see the intelligent, caring, beautiful little girl you are.

Yeah.

Baby.

Are you going to die?

Not for a very very long time,

when I'm an old old old man.

How old?

Well, probably about...

a thousand.

Yeah.

Yeah. Maybe a million, if I stop eating hot dogs.

Daddy?

I will be such an old man, all right?

You'll have your own house and your own husband.

You'll have a whole bunch of kids.

You'll have a dog and a cat

and everybody will be running around putting ketch-up on everything.

Promise.

I promise.

Pinky swear?

Pinky swear.

男主承诺自己不会突然离开她（但之后却...）

2.7 亲人离世的创伤最主要的情绪是

What do you think about when you think about your mom?

It's just me.

Scared.

Scared, why?

I miss her so much.

And I'm so...

Mad at her for dying?

她的母亲突然离开她，她的感受是愤怒，是因为痛苦，失去爱的痛苦。

3.害怕的连接：害怕的连接直接反应是

3.1 为什么Katie不敢见父母

1. 逃避，见父母，不敢见

3.2 Katie为何在恋爱的时候时候出轨

I love you Katie.

I love you like I never loved anyone else.

You know, not everyone that loves you is going to leave you.

I know that here,

but I don't know it here.

You should go and find some uncomplicated girl to love and stop wasting it on me

Oh.

I like wasting it on you. 女主Katie 无法去爱人 I know that here（头脑中理解）,but I don't know it here.（本能如同直面狮子般充满恐惧） Katie给Camonron说： You should go and find some uncomplicated girl to love and stop wasting it on me。

令人痛苦的一幕，，因为恐惧被失去，没有安全感自卑，不自信，自我牺牲为别人好，让别人离开自己，因为自己不配，所以故意做出坏行为，让别人感到后悔而离开。 生命中的漏洞，真正的爱来时她是接不住的，防止被动抛弃，选择了自残，主动结束真爱。

明知道结局是离开，何必开始呢

4.害怕的连接：怎么克服

4.1 为什么Katie在分手后去酒吧面对更深堕落的诱惑，在自暴自弃的路上，选择了回去

她听到了那首歌，喜乐营里有首音乐， 喜乐营才是你受伤时候的安慰，你要问自己，我的喜乐营里有什么？你越清楚， 你越能够走出伤痛

通过音乐，喜乐的核心记忆，找到回喜乐营的路，

母亲小时候总会在晚上学习的时候做一碗桂圆鸡蛋端到我的屋里 小时候被父亲举高高 小时候和父亲 一起去游泳 如果小时候没有，就要开始为你的人生建立喜乐营，自己最开心的一些瞬间（放入日清单中）

4.2 为什么Lucy打了一巴掌给Katie？

因为愤怒再次被抛弃， 安慰她，建立人生的自信，给她告别，正确的面对离开，正确的面对失去，结束这段关系。

女主终于明白了Lucy的愤怒，正如当时突然面对父亲离开的自己，没有告别的句号，这种伤痛只会无限蔓延，Lucy和女主一样背负着这种痛苦与愤怒踽踽独行。 女主与Lucy正式的告别，并

女住最终明白了，

当正确面对失去的时候，就克服了害怕的连接，开始成熟了，有勇气去面对失去的时候，开始成熟，在帮助Lucy的时候，她也可以和父亲勇敢告别了，知道父亲的书就是和她告别的方式，然后她就有心力去追求她的真爱。Lucy也有心力去追求新的生活。 Katie去追寻她的真爱！

5 复盘总结：如何做的更好

1. ctrl+1 快速定位到虚拟桌面
2. snipaste：cmd+F1 snip+copy

6 参考资料

• Fathers & Daughters (2015) - Photo Gallery - IMDb
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• Fathers & Daughters (2015)
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• Mac操作技巧 | 最全"键盘侠"必备快捷键 - 知乎
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7 感谢

雅比斯求告以色列的神说：“甚愿你赐福于我，扩张我的境界，常与我同在，保佑我不遭患难，不受艰苦。”神就应允他所求的。

感谢DH老师的分享，是他他不辞劳苦的预备与无私分享，扩张了我的境界（似乎提高了自己的觉知，明白了自己的很多不可理喻的行为 ，我的观影水平又达到了另一种景色，）。也感谢小伙伴的讨论，大家的真诚分享，在其中我受益良多。

8 写作用时

1.思维导图草稿： 草稿时间若干， 2.印象笔记写作排版

• 12月10日：120min
• 12月11日：早100min

• 12月12日：早70min +晚2h20min 完稿于北京美丽的鹿鸣山庄（我每次灵魂重新得力的地方）

中月的时候，一个穿绯色绒绒睡衣的女孩梦到了爸爸送的心爱的熊熊镜子碎掉了，碎渣借着升起月光越发明亮闪耀。

关于剪辑

全篇剪辑手法中导演并没有从观众的视角讲故事，而是从女儿的心里讲故事。给人一种切割感，这种切割感与剧情有相呼应。爸爸的隐瞒病情，爸爸的突然离去，对女儿来讲是一种缺失，这种缺失是母亲的死亡加以铺垫的。即使这样，不幸中却依然存在小确幸，爸爸的睡前故事，爸爸给女儿的付出，这都是小确幸，都是长大后的女儿认为的美丽，即使这种美丽是碎掉的玻璃熊熊镜子发出的。即使这些美丽的玻璃碴子有时候会不小心割伤自己。